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Shut up, food police!

Sometimes it’s difficult to shut up the “food police” (i.e. the voice that is judge and jury about what you should and should not eat). During a recent intuitive eating group, participants came up with statements from their own food police and we practiced coming up with alternative statements.  Alternative statements come from what Evelyn…

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How To Quit Hooking Up With Your Eating Disorder

Eating disorders are like an asshole college ex-boyfriend. Super seductive. Keeps you hanging but calls when you’re feeling desperate. Hard to break up with because he makes you feel really good sometimes (but makes you question your self-worth most of the time). After your breakup, you know hooking up is going to make you feel terrible but tell yourself, “It’ll just be this one time. We’re super casual.” (Heartbreak ensues).

Breaking up for good with your eating disorder can be the same way…

Body Image & Weddings: It's Not About The Dress - counseling services raleigh nc - Counselor Kate

It’s Not About the Dress

If you read my last wedding post or have ever been to a wedding, you know there’s a lot of emotion when folks tie the knot. Much of that emotion gets wrapped into body stuff: the dress, attendee’s desired weight loss to meet a size goal or look good for photos, reevaluation of life goals…everyone seems to have their own agenda when it comes to body image and weddings.

I was pretty stuck when it came to getting my own wedding plans off the ground because of these hangups. But, surprisingly, wedding planning actually helped my eating disorder recovery.

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Anxiety Sucks! and How to Deal

Anxiety is like a border collie looking to herd sheep. It gets anxious and runs in circles if it doesn’t have a job. Our brains work the same way. Anxiety can be hard to overcome because your brain is designed to think and our thoughts can make us anxious (especially when we’re stressed, tired, hungry). But anxiety doesn’t have to rule your life. Our brains have what’s called “plasticity,” meaning they can be retrained like that border collie. By repeatedly practicing skills to cope, you’re actually changing your brain wiring. It takes patience, but it’s possible.